Loneliness is one of the very big thing young teenagers like you fear. And if you just had a breakup and you are feeling lonely well dear you are not. Its just a feeling not reality. You might also be thinking that your life is over well dear once again you are wrong. You life is still far from over. You might also be feeling like he/she is the best for me. Well dear that's another lie, he/she is not the best because the best is still yet to come.
If you are having all these feelings its normal for you its part of life that's why its called a break up. But just so you get a little understanding before we continue all these above named feelings and questions are all tagged under depression. You are only being depressed, so dear don't cry your self out you are still very young and your future is very much better and brighter than your present.
What is Break Up
Lots of things happen during and before a break up. But most times in the life of young teenagers like you it often leads to a heartbreak which is actually very hurtful but sometimes it doesn't. Some individuals now even take break up as a chapter in life which opens a better chapter better than the former.Also Read: Reasons Why You Should Not Lose Your Virginity as a Teenager 2015 Review
What is Heartbreak
Lots of things can cause heartbreak. Some people might have had a romantic relationship that ended before they were ready. Others might have strong feelings for someone who doesn't feel the same way. Or maybe a person feels sad or angry when a close friend ends or abandons the friendship.Although the causes may vary, the feeling of loss is the same — whether it's the loss of something real or the loss of something you only hoped for. People describe heartbreak as a feeling of heaviness, emptiness, and sadness.
How to Cope with a break Up/ Heartbreak
Break up as define above is a feeling of emptiness and sadness only have a simple remedy and its "Learn when to hold on, Give up and Run". This easy remedy was motivated by a song called Gambler by legend Kenny Rogers and this has worked wonders for a lot of persons who were once in your situation.Most people will tell you you'll get over it or you'll meet someone else, but when it's happening to you, it can feel like no one else in the world has ever felt the same way. If you're experiencing these feelings, there are things you can do to lessen the pain
Now lets try to expatiate on how to deal with the turmoil and pain of ending a relationship and how to let go of your ex and move on with your life.
Work on Yourself: Be Kind to Yourself.
Everything is about you. Moving on is all about yourself, your decision, your understanding. This is why in this round coping with a heartbreak is all about you because really you don't know how the other person is feeling so lets take it personal.Also Read: How to Prevent Your Husband From Cheating On You
Recognize, Understand And Release Your Feeling
The first step of working on yourself is recognizing your feeling, do not lie about the fact that you love this person, accept it because recognizing it will help you understand it. Now try your best to understand it, Understanding it means you knowing why you love this person, why you were always there for this person and the efforts you made in the relationship. After the previous step now you should know how to let the feelings go. (hint: if you were not at fault, after the previous steps then you should see that there is no need to keep the feelings) this will make it easy for you to let go.
Cry All You Want: Don't be Ashamed
Crying has been found to be helpful in this situation, We find it irresistible to stop crying now am telling you don't stop yourself from crying. Let the tears flow, it's healthy you are releasing grief and pain. You may be afraid to start because you're fearful you'll never stop, but you will. So just cry.Take Good Care of Yourself
A broken heart can be very stressful so don't let the rest of your body get broken too. Get lots of sleep, eat healthy foods, and exercise regularly to minimize stress and depression and give your self-esteem a boost. Do something everyday to help yourself heal. Exercise, read, watch some self-help TV/DVD's, learn to meditate and never underestimate the power of positive prayer. Pick things that you know will be fun or beneficial and do them. Don't wait for the mood to come over you, take one action and then take another. If you love singing and dancing. Then dance and sing. Do what you like, it will help. Sometimes traveling to new amazing places like resorts, beaches is also helpful.Keep Yourself Busy or Engaged always
As we already know boring moments and thinking comes as a result of not doing anything, so don't give it a chance. Sometimes this is difficult when you're coping with sadness and grief, but it really helps. This is a great time to redecorate your room or try a new hobby. That doesn't mean you shouldn't think about what happened — working things through in our minds is all part of the healing process — it just means you should focus on other things too. Don't sit in your room and ruminate, you have to free your mind so your heart can heal.Accept Being Single
Getting over your ex is virtually impossible if you're fantasizing about getting back together. It's important to learn how to be happy as a single person before you start to date again.Being single gives you the freedom to do what you want, when you want. Watch a cheesy movie you would never admit to liking. Switch off your cell phone at the time your ex used to call. Perform a cleansing ritual, such as throwing away her yearbook photo or deleting his mushy e-mails. You'll be amazed how much better you'll feel.
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Share your Feelings to Others And Research
Share your Feeling: Getting over your ex is virtually impossible if you're fantasizing about getting back together. It's important to learn how to be happy as a single person before you start to date again. Being single gives you the freedom to do what you want, when you want. Watch a cheesy movie you would never admit to liking. Switch off your cell phone at the time your ex used to call. Perform a cleansing ritual, such as throwing away her yearbook photo or deleting his mushy e-mails. You'll be amazed how much better you'll feel.Research: Find out what others, who have not just survived but thrived after their relationships ended did to achieve peace of mind. There are some great books on surviving a breakup, my friend's favorite is "How to Survive the Loss of a Love" by Peter McWilliams. This little gem will give you insight, exercises and some sage advice for dealing with this heart wrenching issue.
Some people feel that nothing will make them happy again and resort to alcohol or drugs. Others feel angry and want to hurt themselves or someone else. People who drink, do drugs, or cut themselves to escape from the reality of a loss may think they are numbing their pain, but the feeling is only temporary. They're not really dealing with the pain, only masking it, which makes all their feelings build up inside and prolongs the sadness.
Sometimes the sadness is so deep — or lasts so long — that a person may need some extra support. For someone who isn't starting to feel better after a few weeks or who continues to feel depressed, talking to a counselor or therapist can be very helpful.
So be patient with yourself, and let the healing begin. And in all do not forget that you are not the first to be in this situation neither are you the last.
Reference/Source
- Psychology Today :- 10 Tips to Survive a Break-up
- Teenadvice.about.com :- Surviving a Breakup: 7 Time-Tested Tips
- Kidshealth.org :- Getting over a break-up
Photos Credit/ Source
- msn :- 20 ways to survive and feel better after a breakup
- huffingtonpost ;- 4 steps to help your teen survive your divorce
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